Qualities of Abusive Relationships
It is important to remember that abusive relationships can be complicated, unhealthy, or even unsafe. Understanding the truth about abusive relationships can help you decide if yours is good for you.
SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
Unfortunately, too many women are in toxic relationships that involve a loss of sexual and reproductive control or even sexual abuse. Knowing what this looks like can help you identify when something is not right in your relationship.
Toxic relationships are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of a toxic relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other negative, abusive behaviors, are demonstrations of power and control. Remember: You deserve to be respected and loved in a good and healthy relationship. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind.
WHAT TO DO WHEN LEAVING A BAD RELATIONSHIP?
If you think your relationship is a bad one, it is important to think about your safety and knowing appropriate ways to end a relationship before it gets worse. Consider these points as you move forward:
- Understand that a person can only change if they want to. You can not force your partner to alter their behavior if they do not believe they are wrong.
- Focus on your own needs. Are you taking care of yourself? Your wellness is always important. Watch your stress levels, take time to be with friends, get enough sleep. If you find that your relationship is draining you, consider ending it.
- Connect with your support systems. Often, abusers try to isolate their partners. Talk to your friends, family members, teachers and others to make sure you are getting the emotional support you need. Remember, our advocates are always ready to talk if you need a listening ear.
- Think about breaking up. Remember that you deserve to feel safe and accepted in your relationship.