Myths & Questions about Sex
Get your questions about sex answered, and see if what you know about sex is fact or myth!
ADDRESSING THE MYTHS ABOUT SEX
Well, the best thing you can do for yourself is to relax. However, being relaxed during sex can only come from the confidence that you are doing the right thing and the assurance that within yourself, you feel like you are truly ready to have sex. It is also helpful to have lubrication gels like KY gel handy to make penetration easier.
Oh Yes! It is possible to be pregnant the very first time you have sex if you are not protected and your partner ejaculates or ‘cums’ directly inside your vagina or even on top of it. Also, pre-cum can carry a bit of sperm in it, which makes it possible for pregnancy to occur. Use condoms-male and female - ALWAYS. You can talk to your healthcare provider about protection options.
There are as many answers to this question as there are men in the world! Some men last one minute, others last 10 minutes. It can be different every time you have sex - being tired, drunk, having had sex or masturbated recently - these all can affect how long it takes a man to reach orgasm.
There are pills, creams and drugs that are said to help with lasting longer during sex. Most of these do not work and are likely a waste of your money. If you think you might need help, do talk to a healthcare provider before you start so he/she can help you understand the side effects and decide if the drugs are right for you or not.
Your mind is your most effective ally during sex. Even your sexual organs respond to the stimulation or messages from your mind. So if you can train your mind to hold down the excitement when you are close to cumming, then you already hold the secret to lasting longer. (Didn’t say it’s going to come easy, but practice makes perfect, doesn’t it?)
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MYTHS ABOUT SEX
FALSE. You can get pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease (STD) anytime you have vaginal (penis-in-vagina) sex. If you are having sex without birth control, you can get pregnant — whether it is the first time or the 100th time. It is even possible for you to get pregnant before you have your first period!
Bottom line: if you are going to have sex, use birth control to prevent pregnancy. And always use a condom to prevent STDs.
FALSE. A lot of sexually transmitted diseases can be cured with antibiotics. But once they are cured, you can get them again. So if you get treated for an sexually transmitted disease, your partner(s) should be treated also — otherwise they could give the infection right back to you if you have sex again. And you should keep getting tested whenever you have unprotected sex or start having sex with someone new.
FALSE. It is not super common, but it is possible to get pregnant from sex you had during your period. This is because sperm can hang out in your reproductive organs for SIX whole days, waiting for one of your eggs to come out.
FALSE. Herbal solutions will not prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or pregnancy. In fact, some herbal solutions can cause serious damage.
FALSE. HIV/AIDS has no cure. But there are treatments that can keep your viral load down and prevent HIV from progressing to full-blown AIDS.
False. You can have sex at any time of the month, but remember to use condoms or your preferred method of contraceptive. If a girl is bleeding during her period, you can put a towel or sheet under her to avoid the tell-tale stain on the bed!