Talking about Sex
Sex has a lot to do with trust and responsibility, so being open with each other about sex is very essential. Ironically, it is easier for people to be naked before each other than to openly talk and discuss about the act of sex itself.
Sex has a lot to do with trust and responsibility, so being open with each other about sex is very essential. Ironically, it is easier for people to be naked before each other than to openly talk and discuss about the act of sex itself. The point is even though it is important to talk about sex, it is usually difficult to do it. Reasons could range from past experience to deeply held beliefs about sex to religious stance to rumours/hearsay to how society treats the subject of sex itself. In some places, talking about sex is an outright taboo! It is important for couples to have open communication with their partner to help ensure a good and healthy relationship.
Here are some tips for how you can talk about sex with your partner:
- Open the discussion by getting to know him (do not carried away enough to get intimate with a stranger though--no matter how cute they are!)
- Ask your partner to tell you about himself/herself
- Ask about his/her sex life
- Ask about his/her sexual past
- Ask what they think about safe sex
- Ask if he/she has ever been tested for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and HIV/AIDS
- Ask what they think about condoms
Knowing about a person and his/her past can help you make better decisions concerning your safety. Secrecy is dangerous. Overcoming your discomfort or shyness is not easy, but working up confidence and having your say is way better and more rewarding than contracting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) including HIV and unwanted pregnancy.
If you feel safe talking with your parents about sex, do it. Sure, it can be a little embarrassing, but it is definitely worth starting the conversation. Parents are sometimes just as scared talking to their kids about sex, so talking to them first might be the best way to begin the conversation. Many parents and other adults you trust can offer great information and advice about sex, health, and staying safe.
One way to avoid awkwardness is to ask your parents questions about what they think about sex to show them that you respect their opinions. You could start by saying something like, "Some of my friends are having sex. What do you think about that?" Or, "How did you first learn about sex?"
Asking them questions about what it was like when they were your age or when they first started having sex is a great way to learn, get their trust, and even hear some funny or cute stories from their past. You can also try using something from a TV show or a movie to start the conversation.